Have you ever wanted to try something new, maybe learn how to play guitar, join a club, start a business, or simply just go to the gym more regularly, but for some reason you just can’t seem to find the motivation to actually do it? This is a common problem for many people but the question is, why? Motivation is simply the desire or willingness for a person to do something but there are two different types of motivation, internal and external. In our youth, much of our lives are driven by external motivation. Other people decide where we need to be, what we need to do, and for how long. When we are young we are motivated to please the requirements that others have set for us but as we age and become independent we have the ability to decide freely what we will do.
Some people never break this habit of only being externally motivated, continuing schooling because they don’t want to disappoint their parents, get a cooperate job that has good benefits so you don’t disappoint your friends and family, continue working that same job even if you don’t enjoy it so you don’t displease your boss. It’s not that any of these scenarios are bad but if they are driven because of other people you will likely find yourself unhappy and unfulfilled. The point is that many of us are making decisions from external motivation rather than internal, and for that reason, most people never try that new thing that they have always wanted. This is mainly because the only person telling them that they should get out of their comfort zone and try this new thing is themselves, and with a lack of internal motivation that thing they’ve always wanted will remain just a fantasy.
Internal motivation is the key to a fulfilled life, only you know what you are capable of and if you don’t let your internal motivation take control of your life you will realize that someone else’s motivation has taken control of yours. Now that you realize the importance of having your internal motivation take control, let me explain some tips on how you can do it.
- Take the time to write down what your goals are (on paper, whiteboard, etc.)
- Reflect on the goals you wrote down every day and actively take steps towards them.
- Believe in yourself and that your internal motivation will drive you on the correct path.
- Eliminate fear such as (disappointing others, being judged, or feeling different)
- Don’t wait for things to happen to you, make things happen for you.
- Create a schedule and be constant
- Don’t get distracted (work first, relax after)
- Separate yourself from people who have negative energy or don’t believe in you.
- And win the mental battle every morning.